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This cuckold couple interview features Troi, a cuckold couple from the Potsdam area. They are happily married, both employed, and face the special challenges that only parents truly understand. It’s remarkable that, despite all the demands of everyday life, their unique dynamic hasn’t fallen by the wayside. Troi identifies as a BDSM and cuckold couple, and they continually manage to carve out space to live this side of their relationship. They write:
“We, meaning She (’87) and He (’81), are positive-thinking and active people. We are happily married and hedonistic by nature. With a focus on cuckolding and BDSM, we enjoy intimate times with like-minded people. Whether as a threesome or with other couples at home, in hotels, or at events — the main thing is that it’s relaxed and uncomplicated. Fun is important to us. When meeting others, the ‘vibe’ and atmosphere really matter.”
In the cuckold couple interview, they share more about their BDSM dynamic and what it means to live as a cuckold couple. Enjoy!
Who Is Cuckold Couple Troi? An Introduction.
Lady Sas: Please describe the structure of your relationship and what BDSM looks like for you.
Lady Seni: We are married, have two kindergarten-aged children, and both work full-time. Because of all our daily responsibilities, active BDSM only happens during specific, carved-out periods. We do have rules that apply in everyday life. The most important is permanent chastity.
Lady Sas: How did you get into the BDSM world, and how did the two of you develop?
Lady Seni: We’ve been living BDSM for more than 10 years. He introduced me to this kind of intimacy, and we both enjoyed it right away. Over time it became more, and we explored the areas we liked most. With seminars and workshops, we deepened our knowledge. Before having kids, we attended events such as Femdom play nights or other classic BDSM events. But we realized quickly that those didn’t bring us much joy. Humiliation and pushing boundaries bring me a lot of pleasure — not being seen or watching others.
He: It started with her enjoying “teasing” me. I liked it, and we deepened that path together. I’ve been interested in chastity for many years, and it quickly became clear that “gifted sexuality” gave her joy and intensified the power dynamic tremendously.
Lady Sas: What excites you about cuckolding? (Please answer both.)
Lady Seni: When your own husband hasn’t had intimacy in the traditional sense for months, it’s an elevating feeling to show him that he seems replaceable. The act itself is just a tool. Sure, the physical sensations are there, but they are not the main focus. I need to see him while I enjoy the third man.
He: It’s humiliating and bittersweet. Because of chastity and teasing, the emotional desire for balance becomes immense. When she becomes active with another man and visibly enjoys it, the feeling of devotion intensifies.
Lady Sas: How difficult is it to find a suitable third partner for cuckolding?
Lady Seni: There are platforms with plenty of men to choose from. But we are selective. The chemistry has to be right, but the physical aspect also has to fit. Then factors like distance and age matter. Unfortunately, we’ve experienced many negative situations. The selection process is often tedious. Sometimes things seem promising, but then the man ends up wanting more than a cuckold date. Or he doesn’t understand what matters to me during such a meeting.

What Femdom Lady Seni Expects From a Cuckolding Date
Lady Sas: What is important to you during a date, Seni?
Lady Seni: Understanding the dynamic. I engage in cuckolding from a place of power. The guest has to understand the distribution of roles. Sex alone does nothing for me — that’s why it only happens in his presence. The same applies to one-on-one meetings. The guest must be aware that he is entering a threesome dynamic. The details depend on the agreement.
Lady Sas: What challenges do you face when you want to experience BDSM?
Lady Seni: The challenge is carrying the desire into our available free time and actually bringing it to life. We constantly remind ourselves that BDSM is only a part of who we are. We have responsibilities, which makes true 24/7 unrealistic. We can retreat to the lower floor of our house to live freely — that makes things easier, even if some evenings both of us only want to put our feet up.
Lady Sas: Do you have a secret for making BDSM work in marriage?
He: Talk a lot, express wishes clearly, and set concrete dates. Accept that BDSM rarely allows spontaneity when you are two working parents.
Lady Sas: Have you learned things you’d pass on to other BDSM couples?
He: Fulfilling BDSM doesn’t come from porn. Those images may be arousing but rarely represent reality. What matters is knowing and respecting your partner’s needs. With books, workshops, and real exchanges, you can expand your repertoire enormously.
Cuckold Couple Interview: How Chastity Works
Lady Sas: How does chastity work in your dynamic, and which device do you use?
Lady Seni: He wears a small device permanently, secured with a PA lock. At home, I intensify things by having him wear a full belt (Latowski).
Lady Sas: How do you keep his key?
Seni: In everyday life, I wear a necklace with the key, or I store it in a separate key safe.
Lady Sas: What has been your most exciting BDSM experience so far? (Please answer both.)
Lady Seni: It’s hard to name just one. Certain sessions with needle play, electricity, or heavy flogging were very intense and left lasting effects. And then there’s sex with other men in front of him — and his whimpering…
He: Yes, I’m thinking of a meeting with a man in a club. After that date I felt so small — and for days afterward I wished I could disappear into the ground.
Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?
Lady Seni: Creating more time-outs for the best hobby in the world. Bringing the little worm down to earth. And maybe having a steady house friend again would be a wonderful addition.
Lady Sas: Thank you for the interview.
This cuckold couple interview with Troi shows beautifully how BDSM, chastity, and family life can be combined with honesty and communication.
If you are also a cuckold couple and interested in an interview, feel free to comment or contact me at: dearladysas@gmail.com
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FAQ Cuckold Couple Interview with Troi
What does cuckolding mean for the couple Troi?
For Troi, cuckolding is a mix of power, intimacy, and emotional tension. For Femdom Lady Sreni, the focus is not on the act itself but on the power dynamic and showing her husband that he is replaceable. For him, the combination of chastity and teasing creates a bittersweet blend of humiliation, desire, and devotion.
How does Troi balance BDSM with family life?
With two young children and demanding jobs, BDSM only takes place in intentionally carved-out time windows. However, rules like permanent chastity remain active in everyday life, helping to maintain their dynamic without pushing toward an unrealistic 24/7 lifestyle.
How did Troi first discover BDSM and develop their dynamic?
He introduced Femdom Lady Sreni to BDSM more than ten years ago, and both enjoyed it from the start. Through workshops and seminars, they deepened their knowledge. Before having kids, they attended Femdom play nights and BDSM events but soon realized they enjoyed intimate power exchange and boundary-pushing far more than public play.
What excites Femdom Lady Sreni and her husband about cuckolding?
For Femdom Lady Sreni, it is the elevated feeling of showing her husband he is replaceable, especially when he has had no traditional intimacy for months. For him, seeing her with another man intensifies submission and emotional longing due to chastity and teasing, creating a bittersweet but powerful emotional experience.
How difficult is it to find a suitable third partner?
Although many men are available on various platforms, truly suitable candidates are rare. Chemistry, physical compatibility, maturity, distance, and understanding the dynamic all matter. Many men either want more than a cuckold date or misunderstand the nature of the power dynamic.
What does Femdom Lady Sreni expect from a cuckolding date?
She expects the guest to clearly understand and respect the power structure. The focus is not on sex itself but on the dynamic. Sex only takes place in her husband’s presence, and the guest must accept that he is entering a threesome dynamic that follows her rules.
What challenges does the couple face when living BDSM in everyday life?
The main challenge is transitioning desire into limited free time and keeping their dynamic alive despite work and parenting. They remind themselves that BDSM is only one part of who they are. Their dedicated play area at home helps create space even on exhausting days.
What is Troi’s secret to maintaining a strong BDSM marriage?
Communication, expressing desires openly, setting clear agreements, and accepting that spontaneity is rare for two working parents. Scheduled playtimes and realistic expectations help keep BDSM fulfilling.
What advice does Troi give to other BDSM or cuckold couples?
They emphasize that fulfilling BDSM doesn’t come from pornography. Real intimacy requires understanding your partner’s needs, open communication, and learning from books, workshops, and real-life exchanges with others in the kink community.
How does chastity work in Troi’s relationship?
He wears a small chastity device permanently, secured with a PA lock. At home, Femdom Lady Sreni intensifies their dynamic by having him wear a full Latowski belt. She keeps the key on a necklace or locked in a key safe.
What were their most intense BDSM experiences?
Femdom Lady Sreni recalls needle play, electric play, and heavy flogging as especially intense. She also remembers sessions with other men in her husband’s presence and his emotional reactions. He recalls a club encounter that left him deeply humbled for days.
What are Troi’s plans for the future?
They want to create more time for BDSM, deepen their power dynamic, and possibly welcome a steady “house friend” who complements their lifestyle.
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