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I’m very happy that my site now has so many loyal readers. I would like to use this reach to support our shared passion and contribute to the growth of high-quality BDSM and Femdom activities. One such project is the Lady Circle in Stuttgart. The young, charming, and attractive Lady Jay has made it her mission to turn this circle into a success. With this interview, I want to support the project and introduce it to you. Enjoy.
Interview with Lady Jay about the Lady Circle in Stuttgart
Lady Sas: Dear Lady Jay, you are currently building the “Lady Circle” in Stuttgart. What exactly is it, and who is it for?
Lady Jay: We’re still at the very beginning, and for our first meeting I invited friends and acquaintances who are interested in Femdom and FLR. It doesn’t matter whether they’ve been living it in their relationship for ten years or have only just taken their first tentative steps. It’s about exchange, which in my opinion is often missing at typical scene events.
I deliberately keep the target group broad. You don’t need to have done ten sessions to join. Even switch women are very welcome.
Lady Sas: What is the current situation in Stuttgart when it comes to Femdom BDSM?
Lady Jay: To put it casually: rather limited. To be fair, the entire BDSM scene in Stuttgart is quite small. Whether people here prefer to stay in their own basements or whether Swabians are simply more “proper” than the rest of the country—I won’t speculate. The interest is definitely there. I notice it through messages on Joyclub and in conversations with women at events. What’s missing is structured opportunities.
Lady Sas: Are events planned for the future?
Lady Jay: I can definitely imagine that, and I’m really excited about it! We’ll see what the future brings. I’ve already started looking for suitable locations.
Lady Sas: We’d also like to learn more about you. How did you first come into contact with BDSM?
Lady Jay: At 19, when my bed partner suddenly stood there with a flogger and I thought: why not?
After that, I spent a long time exclusively as a sub. About a year and a half ago, I picked up the flogger myself—and I haven’t put it down since.
Lady Jay about her BDSM
Lady Sas: How do you live your BDSM today?
Lady Jay: Ideally with a man I share more than just a bed with. If an appealing opportunity arises at a party, I’m not opposed—but real satisfaction comes when the entire relationship level is right.
In general, I don’t live BDSM in a ritualized or rule-heavy way. I’m too impulsive and spontaneous for the “old school.” I see BDSM as a game that enriches my life and my partner’s—not something that defines it. I’m not an untouchable goddess who receives her slave in perfectly polished latex at all times, but a fairly normal woman… who simply enjoys taking control when she feels like it.
I’m especially drawn to unconventional scenarios. That’s where I can express my creativity. And a proper spanking is a must in every session—I simply enjoy it too much.
Lady Sas: What fascinates you about playing with a slave?
Lady Jay: Almost every session begins for me with distance. That’s the initial kick. With every command, every word, every strike, you grow closer.
I love the moment when he completely steps out of his everyday role—when I can feel that his mind becomes an undefined void, and I’m the only thing that matters.
Or when I notice that he crosses a boundary (without even realizing it). When the space around us seems to expand.
In the end, the distance dissolves. You feel, taste, absorb the other person. This rhythm—the interplay between distance and closeness—is what fascinates me most.
With good energy and the right people, good things always happen
Lady Jay
About her future plans
Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?
Lady Jay: First of all, I’m really looking forward to the next meeting with the ladies. I’m curious to see how everything will develop—I like to let things unfold naturally. With good energy and the right people, good things always happen—that’s always been my approach.
Personally, I have dozens of books on my reading list that I want to dive into soon. I’m very interested in the psychology behind the play, BDSM history, and of course new session ideas.
In the longer term, I’d love to have a dedicated room in my apartment used exclusively for play—designed exactly the way I envision it.
Lady Sas: If someone is interested in the Lady Circle, how can they best reach you?
Lady Jay: You can reach me via Twitter, Joyclub, or by email (jayjonesplays@gmail.com).
Lady Sas: Thank you for the interview.
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Few experience it.
Not for readers. For subs.
Who’s writing here?
Hi, we are Lady Sas and Lady Victoria, two private Femdoms from Frankfurt am Main. We are experts and authors on the topics of Femdom, BDSM, FLR, cuckolding, chastity, and sissification.
With Lady-Sas.com, we want to encourage private women to discover their dominance and live out their desires. We also want to encourage submissive men to feel comfortable in their role.
FAQ
What is the Lady Circle in Stuttgart?
The Lady Circle is a private gathering for women interested in Femdom, FLR, and BDSM. It focuses on open exchange, shared experiences, and building a supportive community.
Who is the Lady Circle for?
The circle is open to all women interested in female dominance—whether experienced, beginners, or switchers. Prior experience is not required.
How developed is the BDSM scene in Stuttgart?
According to Lady Jay, the scene in Stuttgart is relatively small, but interest is strong. Many women are curious and engaged, but there are still too few structured spaces and events.
Are there plans for future Lady Circle events?
Yes, Lady Jay plans to expand the project and organize future events. She is already exploring possible locations and formats.
How did Lady Jay discover BDSM?
She first encountered BDSM at the age of 19. After initially identifying as a submissive, she later transitioned into a dominant role, which she now fully embraces.
How does Lady Jay approach BDSM today?
She prefers a spontaneous, non-rigid style without strict rituals. For her, BDSM is a playful extension of a relationship, not a system of rules.
What role does emotional connection play in her BDSM?
Emotional connection is central. While she is open to spontaneous encounters, deeper satisfaction comes from a meaningful relationship dynamic.
What elements are important in her sessions?
Creativity, spontaneity, and physical elements like spanking play a key role. She enjoys exploring unconventional scenarios and expressing control naturally.
What fascinates Lady Jay about dominance?
She is fascinated by the psychological transformation of the sub—especially the shift from distance to deep immersion and the evolving dynamic of control and closeness.
How can someone contact Lady Jay?
She can be reached via Twitter, Joyclub, or email. These channels are also the best way to learn more about the Lady Circle and upcoming events.
