Ms Femme Fatale from Dortmund: Private Femdom on Sadism, Marriage, and Two Subs

I met Ms Femme Fatale from Dortmund. She is an intriguing personality who takes what she wants. And what she wants is not exactly modest. In addition to her husband, she has another sub as a play partner and is now looking for an additional Femdom who would like to train the subs together with her. In this interview, you will learn more about the private Femdom Ms Femme Fatale.

Lady Sas: How did it happen that you have both a husband and a play partner?

Ms Femme Fatale: Until some time ago, my husband and I had a couples profile on Joyclub. We were looking for like-minded couples and women. Then we met a very young dominant woman. We quickly became friends, so close that we also started doing everyday things together. At some point, she noticed how much work I had with the house, the child, my job, and the dog. That was when she came up with the idea of a cleaning slave and told me about the SZ (a German BDSM platform, Lady Sas). I smiled at the idea at first, until my husband agreed with her and said it might be worth a try.

A few days later, I found myself sitting in front of the SZ and creating a profile looking for a cleaning slave who would have the prospect of a reward after completing his work. About five days and just over 500 messages later, I had chosen one very special man. He was charming and seemed trustworthy, which is why he soon stood at my door. For a while, he cleaned obediently, and I rewarded him afterward with small sessions. At some point, I no longer wanted him to clean for me. I was constantly under tension when he was moving around the house. I wanted to get started right away. Over time, a very deep and trusting kind of relationship developed between us.

“I dominate both of them at the same time.”

Lady Sas: How often do you see your play partner, and in what kind of setting?

Ms Femme Fatale: We see each other, when it works out, about every two to three weeks. It always depends on my husband’s shifts. He works rotating shifts and often has irregular days off. That matters because we do not do anything separately. We always play as a trio. When the three of us meet, I usually have between two and three hours of fun with both of them. I dominate both of them at the same time, although the focus during that time is clearly on my play partner. After all, I do not see him every week.

Lady Sas: How does your husband feel about you having a play partner?

Ms Femme Fatale: As I mentioned earlier, it was partly his idea back then. Neither of us realized that it would develop in such an intimate direction. We have always been free of jealousy throughout our ten-year relationship. He wants me to be happy, and as long as he does not come up short, it is absolutely not a problem for him.

Lady Sas: You describe yourself as “extremely sadistic.” How did you first discover this side of yourself?

Ms Femme Fatale: I do not remember exactly how I discovered it. When we came across the Femdom topic almost ten years ago, it became increasingly clear that there was something more inside me than just dominance. This tendency developed more and more intensely in me. But how sadistic I really am only became clear during the time with my play partner. With him, I do not have to hold back. With my husband, because of his job, I can only really let myself go during his vacation, because he cannot stand in the company shower with a striped backside.

“I have extreme fun with it” – Ms Femme Fatale

Lady Sas: What turns you on about being sadistic?

Ms Femme Fatale: This is one of the questions I have thought about often and for a long time. But I think I know the answer very clearly now. First of all, the fun! Yes, I have extreme fun hitting, biting, scratching, and hurting the person in front of me in other ways, for example with needles. Then it is also a kind of outlet for me. Irritation, anger, and sometimes rage — I can release those feelings there. A little escape into myself. Somehow, it feels very intense. So much adrenaline rushes through my blood that I often tremble and feel almost intoxicated. It arouses me extremely. I strike, and in the next moment I am wet. It also allows me to feel the power I have over both of them even more strongly. More strongly than if I were only dominating them.

Seeing the marks afterward turns me on a lot too. I know that I was the one who caused them, and it turns me on that they are proud to wear those marks from me. But I also distinguish between my two men and what exactly excites me about each of them. When I torment and beat my husband, it turns me on because he flies during it, and for him pain becomes that familiar pleasure pain. He is like he is high, beside himself, and he has even had orgasms just from being beaten. Then, of course, there are the marks that remain when I have the opportunity to leave them.

With my play partner, something different turns me on. First of all, it is the feeling that “with him, I do not have to hold back.” It is a feeling of freedom, breathing out, switching off. I do not have to think about whether a mark might remain or not. With him, it is also about “marking my territory.” He is not allowed to have sexual contact with other women. He travels a lot, and of course I cannot really control him. But I trust him, and I also know that he truly has no interest in other women. Still: territory marked. Mine!

“I am greedy for satisfaction”

Lady Sas: How would you describe your style of BDSM?

Ms Femme Fatale: The first word that comes to mind is “love.” I am a very emotional and intense person. I always care about everyone feeling good. It is a give and take. I also play in a very sexual way. I am greedy for satisfaction, and I want sore muscles the next day. I want to live myself out, let myself go, and give a lot in return. Closeness and love. But in my own way. My love can hurt quite a bit, and my closeness is authentically dominant and consistent. None of it is an act. It comes from very deep inside.

Lady Sas: You are currently looking for a female play partner who, as you write, has “no sense of rivalry” and would like to play with your men together with you. What are you hoping for?

Ms Femme Fatale: I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember. I have been sexually attracted to women since my early youth. At some point, I had the idea of what it might be like to play with a like-minded woman. I have a lot of very detailed fantasies in my head. Becoming intimate with a beautiful woman in front of the bound men, feeling the men’s reactions behind me, feeling how aroused they are watching us, and then dominating and tormenting them together — wonderful! This constellation simply offers an incredible number of possibilities. It also means that my husband, for example, does not always have to take a back seat when my play partner is involved. No one is left out, and everyone gets what they need.

“I want to harmonize with the woman” – Ms Femme Fatale

Lady Sas: Can you explain the point about rivalry a little more? What do you mean by that?

Ms Femme Fatale: In general, women can be a little inclined to compare: who is prettier, who is better, things like that. Women are women. But especially in conversations with dominant ladies, I have sometimes had the subtle feeling that there is a lot of rivalry involved. Who is harder, more dominant, more consistent. Very stuck in their ways, sometimes very tense. That is not for me. I want to harmonize with the woman and have a basis of trust. In my view, that is absolutely essential in a situation like this.

Lady Sas: Did you make any resolutions for the new year?

Ms Femme Fatale: Honestly, no. I am completely satisfied and happy with my life and everything I have. Everything is perfect as it is. I have a wonderful child, no money worries, I am healthy, and I have two wonderful men who desire me. What more could a woman want?

Lady Sas: Thank you for these insights.

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FAQ

How does the relationship between husband and play partner work?

Ms Femme Fatale lives a model in which everyone involved is included. She plays exclusively as a trio, never alone. Transparency, clear boundaries, and mutual respect are essential. Her husband accepts the play partner as long as he himself does not come up short.

How did she discover her sadistic side?

With growing experience in the Femdom world, she realized that there was more inside her than pure dominance. Especially in the dynamic with her play partner, she was able to fully explore her sadistic side without having to hold back.

Why is pain a turn-on for her?

For her, sadism is an emotional, physical, and psychological thrill. Inflicting pain releases adrenaline, desire, and a feeling of control. At the same time, she experiences it as an outlet for stress and intense emotions.

How does Ms Femme Fatale describe her BDSM style?

She says herself that BDSM means love, intensity, and authenticity to her. Her play is physical, emotional, sexual, and consistent. She wants to combine closeness, desire, and dominance in her own authentic way.

Why does she want to play with another dominant woman?

She is bisexual and dreams of dominating two men together with a like-minded woman. For her, this constellation creates new possibilities, more dynamics, and a particularly intense form of play.

Why is harmony more important to her than rivalry?

With some dominant women, she has experienced rivalry and tension. For her, however, trust, harmony, and teamwork come first. Only then can BDSM with another woman work.