Mutual Femdom Services Agreement: Structure, Consent, and Legal-Safety Framework

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This Mutual Femdom Services Agreement was created by Mistress Carmen—Femdom and lawyer with 30+ years of experience. It offers a legally informed framework for consensual Femdom–Sub dynamics. This contract template defines roles, limits, safety rules, obligations, and renewal procedures to help partners structure their Femdom relationship with clarity and mutual consent.

It is intended to be practical and to serve as a useful tool to frame our games. You will notice that I deliberately avoided the terms “Slave” or “Slavery.” I am aware that these are commonly used within our universe; however, for practical purposes I chose to omit them, as they might trigger prejudices in people who may need to read the document. From the Femdom’s perspective, the wording may appear somewhat aseptic, but I believe it still encompasses—and can even accommodate more—all that is necessary for both parties to feel safe while engaging in the games. Keep also in mind that what I am presenting is only a skeleton of a contract, not tailored to any particular case. The idea is to dress this skeleton in the best possible way to suit the concrete needs of real people. They should know their own situation, needs, and wishes, and use the skeleton as a framework on which to build all that.”

– Lawyer Mistress Carmen

This Mutual Femdom Services Agreement (“Agreement”) is entered into on [Date], by and between:

[Party A Name], located at [Party A Address], hereinafter the Femdom 

and  [Party B Name], located at [Party B Address], hereinafter the Sub.

Collectively referred to as “the Parties.”

Witnesses of the signature of this contract are: [State names and addresses of the witnesses] 

Both Parties acknowledge their legal capacity to sign this Agreement, commit to its terms, and grant their voluntary consent.

PREAMBLE 

This Agreement is not only a framework of obligations and rights, but also a reflection of the trust, respect, and shared creativity between the Parties. It is intended to safeguard both the joy and the safety of their practices, ensuring that consent and care remain at the heart of their relationship.

1. PURPOSE 

The Parties agree to provide certain services to each other for their mutual benefit, within the principles of SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and/or RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). 

It does not waive fundamental rights, is not legally enforceable to compel conduct, and serves as evidence of informed consent, boundaries, and safety practices.—

2. DEFINITIONS 

– “Services”: Specific tasks, attitudes, or obligations described in Section 3. 

– “GAP”: Generally Accepted Principles and practices of BDSM worldwide, as interpreted under SSC/RACK. 

– “Femdom”: Role defined under GAP. 

– “Sub”: Role defined under GAP. 

– “Confidential Information”: Any non-public information disclosed by either Party. 

– “Term”: Duration of this Agreement as defined in Section 5. 

– “EAF”: Exceptions Appendix for the Femdom. 

– “EAS”: Exceptions Appendix for the Sub. 

– “Safe Word”: [Insert agreed word]. 

– “Stop Signal”: [Insert agreed gesture].

3. SCOPE OF SERVICES 

– Femdom agrees to provide all services under GAP normally associated with her role, except those listed in EAF. 

– Sub agrees to provide all services under GAP normally associated with his role, except those listed in EAS. 

– Services will be provided during sessions of [frequency/duration]. Any changes must be agreed in writing (including electronic communications with explicit acknowledgment). 

– Use of safe word or stop signal immediately suspends activity, triggering aftercare and documentation. 

– Both Parties recognize that their practices are a journey of trust and creativity and commit to honesty and empathy in every session.

4. PARTICULAR TERMS 

**Obligations of the Sub (examples):** 

– Maintain physical condition and appearance. 

– Follow training protocols within contract scope. 

– Obey instructions consistent with GAP, EAS, and safety protocols. 

– Accept control of sexuality, including chastity devices, subject to health safeguards. 

– Report any inability to consent in the Femdom. 

– Obtain yearly or as required a medical check-up and attach it to the contract.

– [Add specific obligations].

**Rights of the Sub (examples):** 

– Right to physical, mental, and psychological health. 

– Human dignity respected at all times, except during sessions due to the inherent nature of them as per GAP. 

– No marks lasting more than [number of days] . If such marks occur, they will be treated with care, aftercare provided and documented. 

– Confidentiality of identity unless authorized. 

– Consent required for public appearances. 

– Right to stop third-party participation in absence of Femdom and evident breach of his rights and exceptions. 

– [Add specific rights].

**Obligations of the Femdom (examples):** 

– Ensure adherence to GAP and safety protocols. 

– Provide aftercare, not only physical but emotional reassurance, as an essential part of the bond. 

– Manage chastity devices responsibly, with medical oversight and emergency access. 

– Obtain verbal consent for new practices, document in addenda. 

– Suspend contract if Sub shows inability to consent. 

– Obtain yearly or as required a medical check-up and attach it to the contract.

– [Add specific obligations].

**Rights of the Femdom (examples):** 

– Sole authority during sessions under GAP. 

– Right to imprint training style. 

– Right to respect and proper address. 

– [Add specific rights].

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5. TERM, TERMINATION, SUSPENSION, AND RENEWAL 

– Agreement commences on [Start Date] and expires after 90 days unless renewed. 

– Either Party may terminate with [Number] days’ written notice. 

– Termination for cause may occur immediately upon material breach. 

– Renewals are not mere formalities: they are opportunities to pause, listen, and reaffirm the evolving journey of the Parties. Each renewal shall be accompanied by a brief conversation about boundaries, desires, and well-being, documented in writing and signed. 

– Suspension applies if conditions (e.g., medical treatment) require delay; contract resumes once resolved, renewal could be in order if last one needs to be renewed.

6. COMPENSATION 

– Services exchanged on a mutual basis without monetary payment.  [Contract would need important additions if monetary compensation was agreed. I might help]

7. CONFIDENTIALITY 

– Parties agree to maintain confidentiality of sensitive information. 

– No recording, photography, or disclosure of identity without written consent and conditions. 

– Exceptions: legal requirements or public domain information. 

– Confidentiality is not only a legal safeguard but also a commitment to protect the dignity and privacy of both Parties.

8. LIABILITY AND INDEMNIFICATION 

– Each Party responsible for own actions. 

– Femdom assumes responsibility for third-party participants she introduces. 

– Nothing limits liability for gross negligence or intentional misconduct. 

– Emergency procedures: [Insert agreed protocol].

9. DISPUTE RESOLUTION 

– Disputes resolved first through good-faith negotiation, then mediation/arbitration if needed. 

– **Note:** Each contract must specify governing law and jurisdiction, if at all possible.

10. MISCELLANEOUS 

– Entire Agreement: This document constitutes the full agreement. 

– Amendments/Addenda/Renewals: Must be in writing and signed. 

– Severability: If any provision is invalid, the remainder remains effective; invalid terms replaced with closest intent. 

– Notices: Communications delivered to [insert addresses/emails/messengers], deemed received upon explicit acknowledgment.

11. EXCEPTIONS TO GAP FOR THE SUB (EAS) 

At date of signature: 

– [List specific exceptions]. 

– Example: No cuts, piercings, or practices breaching skin. 

– Example: Chastity exemptions for medical/psychological reasons. 

New exceptions during practice: 

– Example: Allergy to latex (since xx/yy/zzzz).

12. EXCEPTIONS TO GAP FOR THE FEMDOM (EAF) 

At date of signature: 

– [List specific exceptions]. 

– Example: Poor personal hygiene. 

– Example: Anal training excluded. 

SIGNATURES: 

The Sub: _____________________    Date: __________ 

The Femdom: __________________    Date: __________ 

Witness 1: ____________________   Date: __________ 

Witness 2: ____________________   Date: __________ 

ONGOING RENEWALS: [First should take place 90 days after first contract signature]

We extend our consent and agreement until [90 days after signature]. 

Sub: _____________________   Date: __________ 

Femdom: __________________   Date: __________ 

(Add subsequent renewals as needed.)

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ADDENDA: 

Addendum #1 (Date: xx/yy/zzzz): [Describe new agreement]. 

Sub: _____________________   Date: __________ 

Femdom: __________________   Date: __________ 

(Add further addenda as needed.)

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FAQs Mutual Femdom Service Agreement

What is a Mutual Femdom Services Agreement?

It is a written framework that defines expectations, responsibilities, and consent between a Femdom and a Sub. It clarifies boundaries, mutual obligations, and safety protocols without waiving fundamental rights.

Is this Agreement legally enforceable?

No. It cannot compel behavior or override human rights laws. Its value lies in documenting consent, limits, and intentions, which may help prevent misunderstandings and protect both parties.

Why avoid the terms “slave” or “slavery” in the contract?

Mistress Carmen deliberately avoids these terms because third parties—such as lawyers, judges, or mediators—may misinterpret them. More neutral language increases clarity, credibility, and legal safety.

Why is consent renewal important?

Consent can change over time. Regular renewals (e.g., every 90 days) ensure both partners remain informed, capable, willing, and aligned with the evolving dynamic.

What should the Agreement cover?

A complete document includes definitions, scope of services, obligations, rights, confidentiality, liability, exceptions, term/renewal rules, medical safeguards, and emergency procedures.

What are “GAP,” “EAF,” and “EAS”?

GAP refers to Generally Accepted Principles of BDSM.
EAF and EAS are appendices listing personal exceptions for the Femdom and the Sub—practices excluded for safety, preference, or medical reasons.

Does the Femdom need verbal consent during sessions?

Yes—if a new or unplanned practice arises that is not covered in the Agreement or its addenda, verbal consent must be obtained and later documented.

What happens if the Sub cannot consent?

The contract must be suspended until the Sub is fully able to provide informed consent again. Safety overrides activity.

Is third-party participation allowed?

Only if explicitly agreed upon. The Sub has the right to stop any third-party activity when the Femdom is absent or if boundaries are violated.

How does termination work?

Either party may terminate with notice, or immediately in cases of material breach. The Agreement also allows for suspension if medical or psychological conditions require a pause.

Why attach medical check-ups?

They help ensure the physical and mental safety of both parties, especially when practices involve physical strain, chastity devices, or impact play.

Can compensation be included?

This template assumes no monetary compensation. If money is involved, the contract requires significant additional legal safeguards.

Why include witnesses?

Witnesses strengthen credibility and help document that both parties entered the Agreement voluntarily and with full understanding.