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Key safe
Almost every chastity cage comes with more than one key – usually two. In theory, both keys go to the keyholder. In practice (hopefully) that’s not the case. For safety reasons, we recommend leaving the second key with the one in chastity as an emergency key. Does that open the door to cheating? Not necessarily. A key safe can help.
The idea: A numbered security seal connects the key and the safe. You can’t open the seal without destroying it. This way, the keyholder will see during checks if the seal was cut and the key was apparently used. Secret use of the emergency key is prevented in this way.
Security seal
Security seals are a good solution, for example, if you wear a plastic chastity cage instead of a metal one and don’t want metal detectors at the airport to go off. The seal then replaces the metal padlock.
Key safe controlled via smartphone app
Another way to store the emergency key safely with the person in chastity: The key stays in a small safe on their side. The code to open it is set and changed only by the keyholder via a smartphone app. In an emergency, the keyholder releases the safe and the locked-up sub can access the key.
Smarter key safe / Bluetooth key box
The Master Lock No. 5441EURD Bluetooth Select Access Smart can be controlled via smartphone and the internet. The advantage here: with the timer function, the keyholder can decide exactly when the safe can be opened. Three days in chastity? Or four? The one in chastity will notice when, all of a sudden, the safe can be opened. The safe can be controlled and monitored via app; conventional use with a manually entered code is also possible.
Fingerprint mini smart padlock
Here, the finger is the key. The padlock can only be opened with the keyholder’s stored fingerprint. However, this removes the advantage of an emergency key. That’s why we’d recommend this more as a fun party gadget that makes you an instant conversation topic.
Xylocain spray
Sissy T wrote to Lady Sas:
“My dear Mistress,
Sissy T
I sometimes use Xylocain spray before I open the cage. You simply spray it through the lower hole of the cage onto the glans. After a few minutes the ‘prisoner’ is completely out of action for a while and you can’t get any silly ideas. Getting locked back in is also much easier again.”
A great idea we’re happy to pass on. Xylocain spray is a product used on mucous membranes to numb them quickly and deeply. It comes from dental use – so basically from the dentist’s office. The effect starts after about 1 to 3 minutes.
Attention: Please handle with care to minimize risks.
Minilock
You can find very small padlocks, for example on Etsy, for around 2 €. It’s a small detail, but it can massively improve how your cage looks. A big, chunky padlock that doesn’t match the chastity cage can really spoil the visual impression.
Magic Wand
A Magic Wand is a massage wand. In our context, you could also call it a “juicer”. Some keyholders in long-distance relationships order their sub, after a certain time in chastity, to “juice” or milk himself with it. The Magic Wand is held against the cage, the balls or the perineum.
The one in chastity has to stimulate himself until he climaxes while still locked in. That kind of orgasm is usually somewhat painful. People often talk about a ruined orgasm in the cage: the slave leaks, but gets barely any real sexual pleasure.
Lube
When your penis is nicely slippery, it slides in more easily – into the chastity cage, of course. A water-based lube makes it much easier to get into the tube and reduces friction and rubbing.
Wound and healing ointment
Despite the greatest care, small abrasions and sore spots can’t always be avoided. In that case we recommend keeping a good wound and healing ointment on hand to soothe irritated skin and support healing – especially useful for long-term wear or when you’re still getting used to a new cage.
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FAQ Chastity Accessoires Guide
What is a chastity accessories guide and who is it for?
A chastity accessories guide is a practical overview of tools and ideas that make chastity play safer, more intense, and more exciting. It’s aimed at keyholders and subs who already use a chastity cage and want inspiration on locks, key safes, security seals, lube, and care products.
Which chastity accessories are essential for beginners?
For beginners, the most important chastity accessories are a well-fitting cage, a reliable lock or security seal, a key safe solution for the emergency key, water-based lube for easier insertion, and a good wound and healing ointment to treat small irritations. Everything else builds on this basic setup.
Why is a key safe useful in a chastity accessories guide?
A key safe lets you keep an emergency key on the sub’s side without making cheating easy. The key is stored in the safe and usually sealed or controlled by the keyholder. That way, safety is guaranteed in an emergency, while the power dynamic and control stay clearly with the keyholder.
How do security seals fit into a chastity accessories guide?
Security seals are small, numbered plastic seals that replace or secure a padlock. They are ideal if you wear a plastic cage, want to avoid metal detectors at airports, or simply want a clear visual proof that the cage hasn’t been opened. If the seal is broken, everyone knows it was unlocked.
What’s the difference between a simple key safe and a smart or Bluetooth key box?
A simple key safe is opened with a fixed code. A smart or Bluetooth key box, on the other hand, can be controlled via smartphone or internet. In a chastity accessories guide, smart safes are particularly interesting because keyholders can remotely change codes, set timers, and decide exactly when the emergency key becomes available.
Are fingerprint padlocks good chastity accessories?
Fingerprint mini smart padlocks can be exciting as symbolic tools: the keyholder’s finger becomes the only “key”. However, they usually don’t offer a classic emergency key. That’s why many experienced players see them more as fun gadgets rather than core safety equipment in a chastity accessories guide.
Why is lube mentioned in a chastity accessories guide?
Water-based lube makes it much easier to slide into the tube of a cage and helps reduce friction and rubbing. This lowers the risk of sore spots, especially when you’re new to chastity, trying a new cage, or wearing it for longer stretches.
How can a wound and healing ointment support long-term chastity?
Even with the best fit, minor abrasions and irritated spots can happen. A wound and healing ointment soothes the skin and supports recovery, which is crucial for long-term wear. In any chastity accessories guide, skin care should be treated as seriously as locks and cages.
Does a chastity accessories guide also cover toys like the Magic Wand?
Yes, a comprehensive chastity accessories guide often includes toys that interact with the cage rather than replacing it. A Magic Wand, for example, can be used against the cage, balls, or perineum for controlled, often “ruined” orgasms that emphasize control and frustration instead of simple release.
How do I use a chastity accessories guide to improve safety?
Use the guide as a checklist: ensure you have safe storage for emergency keys, consider smart or app-controlled solutions only if you trust them, handle numbing sprays like Xylocain carefully and according to instructions, and always prioritize skin health and clear communication. The right accessories should make chastity safer first – and more intense second.