Femdom Honey of Babylon: Impact Play in BDSM

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Impact play BDSM is a broad term for consensual striking, kicking, and physical combat within BDSM, and I have to admit: although I was familiar with military roleplay and interrogations, I had never heard the term “impact play” until recently. It just shows you that you never stop learning. The BDSM world is huge and full of facets—there’s always something new to discover. I learned about “Impact Play” through Honey of Babylon, a young woman from Frankfurt who knows this kink inside and out. In this interview, we’ll dive deeper into the topic. Enjoy!

Lady Sas: Honey, please tell us how you found your way into the BDSM world. How did it all start for you? What drew you to it?

Honey of Babylon: As a teenager, I realized through pornography that vanilla sex probably wouldn’t be enough for me. At 17, I came across the term BDSM online, and the more I read about it, the more I knew this was exactly what I was longing for. After a few early attempts to find like-minded people online, I went to my first SMJG meetup (a German BDSM youth group) at 19. I instantly felt at home there and slowly slipped deeper into the scene. At first I was purely submissive, but later I also discovered my dominant and sadistic side. It’s important for me to nurture both parts because they fulfill very different needs.

What Combat and Impact Play really mean

Lady Sas: You’re into Combat and Impact Play. Please explain what these terms mean for you. What does a session look like?

Honey of Babylon: What I especially enjoy when I’m dominating is expressing my sadistic streak. I find it arousing to inflict physical and psychological pain on someone during a BDSM session. Impact Play—hitting someone and causing physical pain—is something I prefer to do using my own body instead of tools. I love punching or kneeing my partner in the thigh and kicking him while he’s crouched on the floor. That gives me a lot of joy.

I love exhausting myself completely. I’m proud when I can still feel it in my own muscles and bones afterward because it shows I really gave everything. I wouldn’t describe “Combat” as its own playstyle. Combat is more of a mindset—a feeling of entering a fight. With my size, I don’t pretend I could overpower a man in a real fight. That’s different with a woman of a similar build, but I haven’t had enough experience with that yet. Combat, for me, is entering a feral, predatory headspace—like a predator focusing on its prey.

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Lady Sas: Are there roleplays you enjoy within this context?

Honey of Babylon: Yes, many. I love roleplay. Before a session I like to decide who I want to be that day and fully step into that persona. It helps me guide the scene spontaneously without wondering “what now?”

I have a special love for uniforms—mainly police and military. Officer uniforms are especially sexy to me, but I also like certain combat and tactical outfits. That makes roleplays with those themes even more interesting. Once, at a kinky party, I had a spontaneous session with my submissive play partner: he wore an officer’s uniform, and I wore a 1950s-inspired outfit. The exciting part was figuring out how to flip the dynamic so that—even though his uniform signaled dominance—I still ended up above him.

He became my henchman in an instant and interrogated another submissive woman for me. Afterward, I evaluated his “work,” and of course he had done a terrible job, so I punished him. The grand finale was him begging me to shoot him with his service weapon. When he lay “dead” in front of me, we shared our first kiss. It was oddly romantic.

Honey of Babylon on her emotions during play

Lady Sas: How arousing is it for you to express yourself this way? Is it like a mental orgasm? How would you describe it?

Honey of Babylon: Impact Play—especially in combination with emotional sadomasochism like degradation or humiliation—is definitely arousing for me, but in a completely different way than sex. It’s more of a euphoric, cathartic experience. In those moments, I feel right and fulfilled. Catching each other afterward and doing aftercare is the part where I feel deeply satisfied. But it satisfies a totally different need than sex or an orgasm.

Lady Sas: How do you find play partners?

Honey of Babylon: Since 2018, I’ve been active at munches and parties in the Frankfurt BDSM scene. Through the community, I’ve made friends, play partnerships, and also met my current partner. New play connections often arise through friends-of-friends or because you’ve already been friends for a while before you start playing together.

Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?

Honey of Babylon: I’m still at the very beginning of my journey and want to experience and learn a lot more. I’d like to organize parties with Femdom friends and contribute more to community events with small workshops. But most of all, I want to have fun!

Lady Sas: Thank you for these insights.

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FAQs

What does Impact Play mean in BDSM?

Impact Play refers to BDSM practices involving deliberate physical pain—such as strikes, kicks, or blows. Honey of Babylon prefers using her own body (fist, knee, kicks) instead of traditional impact tools.

How is Impact Play different from Combat?

Combat is more of a mindset: aggressive, hunting, animalistic. Impact Play is the actual physical striking. For Honey, Combat is a mental state in which she feels like a predator locking onto its prey.

Which roleplays work well with Impact Play?

Honey prefers military and police uniform roleplay. She chooses a persona before each session and combines domination, interrogation scenarios, power shifts, and physical punishment.

What emotions does Impact Play trigger for her?

She feels strong euphoria, catharsis, and a sense of inner rightness. The pain dynamic satisfies a different need than sex. Aftercare is particularly important.

How does she find play partners?

She has been active in the Frankfurt BDSM community since 2018. Most new connections appear through friendships and the wider community network.

What are her future plans?

She wants to keep learning, gain new experiences, give workshops, contribute to the community, and organize events with Femdom friends—but above all, have fun.