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Mistress Polar works as a Fetish Mistress in Hamburg and caught my attention with her stylish, very attractive appearance. I asked her for an interview to learn more about her and her perspective on the world of BDSM. I can already reveal that this interview is particularly remarkable, because Mistress Polar has much more to offer than just her looks.
She’s a multifaceted personality—curious about the world, open to trying new things, self-reflective, and always evolving. Her thoughts are especially interesting when it comes to how kind a Mistress should be and whether it’s appropriate to see herself as a wish fulfiller.
At the end of the interview, Mistress Polar drops quite a bombshell: she reveals that she’s currently working on a German rap album about her experiences as a Dominatrix—delivered with a healthy dose of humor. Wow! I can’t wait to hear it. But before we talk about Mistress Polar the musician, let’s first enjoy Mistress Polar the Fetish Mistress. Enjoy the interview.
Lady Sas: Dear Mistress Polar, let’s start with your name. Is there a story or philosophy behind “Mistress Polar”? How did you come up with it?
Mistress Polar: My name is Polar, which also means to polarize—and that’s exactly what’s reflected in my work in BDSM. In this field, it’s almost inevitable to provoke different reactions. My role and the practices I explore often elicit a strong resonance—be it fascination, curiosity, or sometimes even incomprehension. For me, it’s exciting to experience this dynamic and to spark conversations that offer deeper insights into power dynamics, intimacy, and personal boundaries. Ultimately, it’s about fostering openness and understanding through this polarity.
High-Class Mistress in Hamburg: Mistress Polar
Lady Sas: Please tell us about your path into the fetish world.
Mistress Polar: I began my journey into this fascinating world by exploring my own interests and fantasies. Initially, I was simply curious about BDSM and fetish and learned a lot through online research, books, and connecting with like-minded people. Once I understood my inclinations better, I decided to turn my passion into a profession and help others fulfill their fantasies.
At first, I started as an online Dominatrix, offering webcam sessions and chats. Through these interactions, I gained my first experience and deepened my knowledge. I also began offering custom photos and personalized videos to bring individual fantasies to life. In addition, I sold my worn lingerie, which provided another way to fulfill intimate wishes of my clients. These beginnings not only allowed me to understand my own sexuality better but also helped me create a safe and respectful environment for my clients.
Over time, I developed my skills and gained more confidence in my role. The positive feedback and gratitude from my clients motivate me to continue growing and to share my passion for BDSM and fetish. That’s how I found my calling—as a fetish wish fulfiller who helps others live out their most intimate desires.
Through Aurora Nia Noxx’s podcast, I became a member of the Mistress Academy and found valuable mentors and insights. Now I’m proud to be a resident Dominatrix at Mistress Empire, where I can further expand my skills and fully live my passion for BDSM. It’s exciting to be part of such an inspiring community!
Lady Sas: On your website, it says: “Welcome to Mistress Polar – your Fetish Mistress & Wish Fulfiller.” The term “wish fulfiller” is often frowned upon by private Femdoms because they don’t want to be instrumentalized by their subs. You, however, openly describe yourself as one. Isn’t that a bit too friendly and accommodating for a professional Mistress—or simply honest and realistic?
Mistress Polar: As a Fetish Mistress, I also offer BDSM practices like a private Femdom, but with a stronger focus on unusual or extreme fetishes and fantasies that may not fit the traditional BDSM framework. This can include practices considered particularly unconventional or “bizarre,” such as fetishes for specific materials, body modifications, or roleplay that involves taboo-breaking themes.
The main difference often lies in the scope and type of fetishes and practices offered. While a Dominatrix often emphasizes the aspects of power and control, a Fetish Mistress focuses more on exploring extravagant and specific fetishes and fantasies. Therefore, I’m happy to be a “wish fulfiller” in this area.
Ultimately, I see it as a service. Of course, I understand that some Femdoms may not appreciate maintaining a friendly relationship outside of sessions. But for me, everyone has their own way of living BDSM. I place great value on being approachable and open with my subs because I believe that a friendly atmosphere enriches the experience. I don’t practice BDSM as a 24/7 lifestyle, so I see no problem in interacting kindly outside of sessions.
The Hamburg Mistress Who Allows Touch
Lady Sas: As a Fetish Mistress, you allow physical contact. How far can physicality go in a session? And are there cases where you prefer not to allow physical closeness with a guest?
Mistress Polar: When I started, I experimented a lot, especially regarding touch. At first, I was the untouchable Mistress, but over time I evolved and began to include touch in my sessions. For a while, I even offered intercourse—I really explored and experienced every facet of this world. For me, BDSM still has a sexual context.
I understand that many partners find themselves in the middle ground—where tenderness and closeness are part of the experience. Many couples play privately and don’t necessarily seek the services of a professional Mistress. So, I found my own middle ground: as a Fetish Mistress who allows touch and closeness. Intercourse, however, is something I now reserve for myself and my partner. That intimate connection is very special to me.
Lady Sas: Can you also be very strict and harsh, and play in the harder BDSM area when that’s requested?
Mistress Polar: Of course—don’t let my loving side fool you. If that’s what a guest desires, I can absolutely be strict and sadistic. I enjoy playing with extremely submissive and masochistic subs. This dynamic allows me to explore different aspects of my personality and create deeper experiences. It’s the combination of tenderness and dominance that makes play so exciting for me.
If my partner wishes, I can be strict or cruel. I think it’s important to respect the wishes and limits of the other person while still bringing my own energy and presence into it. It’s thrilling for me to take on different roles and explore the trust and dynamic between us. Whether strict, cruel, or kind—it’s all about making the most out of the shared experience.
Lady Sas: Do guests sometimes underestimate you as a Mistress because you seem so friendly?
Mistress Polar: Definitely. I surprise many people with how consistent I am. I’ve grown tremendously. I used to be what you’d call a people pleaser—afraid of rejection, suppressing my true self. It was almost like playing a role when I began embracing my real nature. Today I know that I’m naturally dominant. I’ve learned to accept and use my strengths, and that’s what makes me who I am now. It’s liberating to live authentically and embrace my dominant side.
But kindness doesn’t mean I’m less dominant or less firm. I believe you can combine both—a friendly approach and a strong, dominant presence. Kindness often allows for deeper connections and builds trust, while I still act with authority and clarity. It’s all about balance—expressing dominance without losing empathy.
Lady Sas: Someone as enchanting as you must have many admirers. That’s flattering, but can it also be annoying? Have you ever had a guest fall in love with you?
Mistress Polar: Thank you for the compliment! The only downside is that most men think they don’t stand a chance with me. I’m sapiosexual and value intelligence and stimulating conversations. Of course, I appreciate a well-groomed appearance and elegant style in potential partners. But no one has ever truly fallen in love with me—though there’s certainly been admiration. For me, emotional and intellectual connections are what truly matter.
Mistress Polar on Her Free Time and Future Plans
Lady Sas: You’re relatively new to the professional field. How did you experience the bureaucratic requirements and hurdles along the way?
Mistress Polar: If you mean the prostitution ID and mandatory health education, that wasn’t a big deal for me. I think it’s important to provide education and ensure everyone’s safety. Laws are necessary and help regulate sex work. They create a framework that protects both the rights of workers and the well-being of clients.
Lady Sas: Your price list says “€200–€300 per hour.” That’s quite a range. Why not a fixed price?
Mistress Polar: Prices are guidelines and depend on the service, the experience, and the demand. They provide a framework for evaluating different offerings. Factors like the type of session, the provider’s experience, and the client’s specific wishes play a crucial role. It’s important to consider these aspects to maintain fairness and transparency.
That said, I don’t deviate too much from the usual industry prices. I think it’s essential to offer a balanced price-performance ratio that reflects both my expertise and the value for the client. This way, I maintain transparency and fairness without compromising the quality of my work or the value of my time.
Lady Sas: How do you spend your free time?
Mistress Polar: When I’m not engaging in BDSM activities, I enjoy a variety of things. I love spending time with friends, trying new restaurants, or relaxing at home. I often read books, listen to music, or watch movies that interest me. Physical activity is also important to me—whether it’s sports, yoga, or walks in nature. It helps me relax and recharge.
Creative hobbies like painting, singing, or writing also provide refreshing balance and allow me to express myself. Ultimately, I think it’s important to maintain balance between my professional BDSM life and other areas of life to enjoy a fulfilling and varied lifestyle.
Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?
Mistress Polar: My future plans are exciting! For one, I’ve discovered a new hobby—I’m currently working on a German rap album about my experiences as a Dominatrix, with a big dose of humor. I invite everyone to follow me on social media to be notified when the first song drops on Spotify.
I’m also working on my new website, where I’ll be available online for all my fans and subs. There will be chats, livestreams, and private cam-to-cam streaming. You’ll also be able to download my videos. As you can see, I’m still having a great time with my online presence and love connecting with my community. It’s important to me to build a bond with the people who support me and are interested in my work!
I want to thank you for this wonderful opportunity—it’s an honor to be interviewed by an icon like you, Lady Sas. It’s truly a pleasure to share my thoughts and experiences. Your questions are inspiring, and I’m happy to be part of this conversation!
Lady Sas: Thank you very much, dear Mistress Polar, for your time and your open, thoughtful answers. I’ll be happy to report on your rap album soon.
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FAQ about Mistress Polar
Who is Mistress Polar?
Mistress Polar is a professional Fetish Mistress based in Hamburg, Germany. She is known for her elegant appearance, thoughtful personality, and her open, balanced approach to BDSM and fetish play.
What does Mistress Polar specialize in?
She focuses on unusual and extreme fetishes beyond traditional BDSM, offering customized experiences that blend sensuality, dominance, and creativity. Her sessions emphasize authenticity, trust, and personal expression.
Is Mistress Polar more of a Dominatrix or a Fetish Mistress?
Mistress Polar identifies as a Fetish Mistress. While a Dominatrix often focuses on power and control, a Fetish Mistress emphasizes the exploration of unique desires, sensory play, and specific fetish interests.
Can physical touch be part of a session with Mistress Polar?
Yes, she allows physical closeness in her sessions when it feels right. Mistress Polar describes herself as a “touchable” Mistress who values intimacy and emotional connection within clear boundaries.
What are Mistress Polar’s future plans?
She is currently working on a German rap album inspired by her experiences as a Dominatrix, combining BDSM themes with humor. In addition, she is launching a new website with livestreams, private chats, and downloadable videos.
Who’s writing here?
Hi, we are Lady Sas and Lady Victoria, two private Femdoms from Frankfurt am Main. We are experts and authors on the topics of Femdom, BDSM, FLR, cuckolding, chastity, and sissification.
With Lady-Sas.com, we want to encourage private women to discover their dominance and live out their desires. We also want to encourage submissive men to feel comfortable in their role.