Dominatrix Madame Lule, Paris

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Dominatrix Madame Lule, a professional dominatrix from Paris, unites art, psychology, and sensual pleasure in a unique way. In this exclusive conversation, she talks about her awakening to BDSM, how she experiences the femdom lifestyle in France, and what female dominance means to her. Between artistic creation, hypnosis, and reflections on power, Madame Lule opens the doors to her refined and powerful world.

Lady Sas: Dear Lule, could you tell me how you became a dominatrix? How did this interest develop?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: I’m not even sure I really became one—I rather feel that part of me always was. As a child at school, I chased after the boys who bothered the girls, made them kneel, and ordered them to submit and apologize. Yes, even back then!

Around the age of ten my imagination began to revolve around restraint, torture, and role play. Between shame and pleasure, I kept replaying one of my favorite scenarios: in an old abandoned hall that I imagined as a hospital, I was in turn the sadistic doctor, the seemingly compassionate nurse, and the patient who had to suffer. These images, in countless variations, made me question for a long time whether I was “normal.” I almost thought I was a monster and didn’t dare talk to anyone about it.

Only as an adult—by chance, on a forum—did I understand that my “dark side” consists of four delightful letters: B-D-S-M. It was a revelation, a huge relief, and the beginning of a new life. I felt like a naughty child in a pastry shop: I wanted to try everything, dare everything, savor everything, devour everything—alone, with others, with the whole world!

Through that same forum I also realized I could earn a living with my passion—through professional domination. So I decided that one day I would become a dominatrix myself. The project, however, had to wait ten years: I didn’t feel ready or legitimate enough, I doubted my skills even though I knew I had them, I worried about my safety and—last but not least—I moved to Asia.

I’m glad I gathered a lot of experience before truly starting out. Feeling strong, grounded, and well supported was essential. This work is fascinating, but also demanding. I tell the story of my beginnings in my autobiographical novel La Loi du Talon (published under the name Alda Mantisse), which reveals the behind-the-scenes of my boudoir. Today—having never had a career plan, only the desire to bring my little worlds to life and invite those who resonate with them—I’m fulfilled.

Lady Sas: What do you enjoy about BDSM?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: I love creating a little theatre of delightful cruelty in my boudoir—shaping a session like a bubble outside of time, exploring the twists and turns of the mind, guiding bodies and wills, letting shame die and multiplying pleasure!

Lady Sas: How do you see French society’s attitude toward BDSM and femdom?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: I’d like to say the perception is positive—but I’m not so sure. On the one hand, there’s more room for sexualities outside the norm, with less judgment and pathologizing (it used to be said that interest in BDSM stemmed from abuse or childhood trauma). On the other hand, I think the topic is unfamiliar to most people—too far from their everyday lives. When they do engage with it, it’s often via media and art (films, series, books, photos, etc.), with a clichéd, hypersexualized image of the dominatrix: a woman in latex, leather, or vinyl on absurdly high heels. That archetype doesn’t reflect reality.

So rather than talking about “society,” I’d speak of “groups,” ranging from the highly enthusiastic to the openly hostile—hostile because, beyond BDSM, female dominance is a highly political issue in a patriarchal society.

Dominatrix Madame Lule on femdom in Germany

Lady Sas: What do you think about femdom in Germany? Have you had any contact with the scene there?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: Over the last ten years, at BDSM festivals, I’ve built connections with several Mistresses. One of them—the amazing Lady Vyra—works in Berlin. German laws make the work easier than in France, where the system is contradictory: sex work is legal (with many restrictions, such as not being allowed to collaborate or help each other), but being a client is illegal.

The BDSM scene seems more developed in Germany than in France… at least for now. Every year there are more events, parties, munches, and workshops—great news! Back in 2008, when I first stepped onto the Paris scene (I was playing before, but privately), there were only one or two big events a month—and probably smaller ones, but you had to know where to look.

Lady Sas: What tips would you give to women who want to explore their dominant side but still hesitate?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: In short: breathe, dare, own it!

In more detail: Educate yourself (forums, blogs, websites, books…), go to events (munches, parties, workshops), watch others play, take what inspires you and leave the rest. Treat yourself to a few coaching sessions, give yourself permission—plus time and space. Experiment, make mistakes, start again! (Note from Lady Sas: This is exactly where my guidebooks come in. My recommendation: check out the “Femdom Academy“.)

What I often see in coaching: women’s number one fear is not feeling “legitimate”; number two is doing something wrong. I encourage them to overthink less and follow their own desires. Each woman should create her very own way to play!

Mistress on free time and future plans

Lady Sas: How do you spend your free time?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: Free time? Rare! I enjoy simple pleasures: seeing friends, theatre, exhibitions, taking walks. I need bubbles of friendship and chosen solitude, calm and beauty. And I love to dance.

A real break, for me, means traveling. In Paris, BDSM takes up most of my time—my circle is kinky. My creative site La Férule (laferule.com), my writing (most recently a gamebook, Le Donjon des Supplidélices), and the photo site Les Minordomes (minordomes.com) that I imagined with Inanna Justice—all of them revolve around BDSM. My personal and professional lives are tightly interwoven, and my mind is always buzzing.

Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?

Dominatrix Madame Lule: Many! Academically, in 2025 I started a dual training in hypnosis and psychopathology. The idea? To play even more with altered states of consciousness during sessions and then write, record, and produce hypnotic audios on kinky themes (fetishism, masochism, pleasure control…).

Creatively, I want to explore video and write about the work of a dominatrix—what it entails and how it has changed my life. And there’s an ambitious, still-secret project related to La Loi du Talon. If it comes to fruition, it will keep me busy for at least a year.

In terms of mentoring, I plan to offer more coaching, classes, and workshops on my favorite topics: ritual, D/s connection, the power of words, mental manipulation, and—seemingly unrelated, but in fact connected—the strength of gentleness in BDSM.

I believe we specialists have a role to play in the community: to train those who wish to learn, to reflect on best practices, consent, the psychological implications of BDSM, and on the framework and ethics of our play.

And finally: I demand a second life to do it all!

Lady Sas: Thank you very much for this conversation, Madame Lule.

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