Private Femdom Goddess Helia von Roykamon: Strict Female Dominance in Bremen

Goddess Helia von Roykamon, a strict and exceptionally attractive private Femdom from the Bremen area, gives us a glimpse into her world in this interview. Subs should pay especially close attention: the beautiful Goddess is currently looking for another submissive. She explains what she expects and what life in her Femdom dynamic looks like.

This interview is part of our interview series featuring private femdoms. New here? Start with our Femdom Guide or our BDSM Guide.

Lady Sas: Dear Goddess Helia, please tell us how you first became interested in BDSM. How did it all begin for you?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: BDSM already played a role in my life when I was a teenager. At techno parties, for example, I would wear collars without really knowing why. I simply enjoyed wearing them. I liked the feeling.

Many years ago, I happened to meet a Dom who, as he saw it, took care of my submissive side. So I got to know both sides. That changed abruptly when he cheated on me with our maid for more than six months. From that point on, the fundamental trust was gone, and I permanently left behind the submissive side he had attributed to me. I have never regretted that decision. That was more than ten years ago.

After that, I didn’t think about BDSM for a long time. But I eventually realized that when you have these inclinations inside you, you can suppress them, but you can never completely forget them. They simply never let you go.

Pure curiosity eventually led me to PetPlay. I took on the role of Owner and Mistress, and I felt very comfortable in that position.

Lady Sas: What is the story behind the name “Goddess Helia”? Is there a particular philosophy behind it?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: Absolutely. I have a fascination with Norse mythology. Helia, the goddess of the underworld and daughter of Loki, inspired and intrigued me. She is different. Hated by some and loved by others. A little like me sometimes. And she has a very unusual appearance. I think the title “Goddess” speaks for itself.

“I would describe myself as a classic FemDom.”

Lady Sas: What kind of BDSM are you into? What do you enjoy most?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: I would describe myself as a classic FemDom. As a rule, I keep my slaves naked because clothing is a luxury, for example. Everything they want has to be earned. Nothing is simply given to them.

I am sadistic, and that makes me very happy. I love orgasm control, pegging, humiliation, and spanking. I love the atmosphere when I enter a room and everything goes quiet. The warm, slightly raised skin that has just received a beautiful welt. The silence during aftercare.

I love pushing my sub’s limits. His sheer desperation when he fails and his incredible pride when he accomplishes something in order to make me happy. I love treating him like an animal, making him eat from the floor, humiliating him, and making him suffer.

Sometimes there doesn’t even have to be an obvious reason. But seriously, do I really need one? No, of course not. If I want it, it happens. It’s that simple.

I love denying him every orgasm and watching him beg and plead for one. It’s the little things that make me happy.

Lady Sas: Are there areas of BDSM that simply aren’t for you?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: Of course. Anything involving medical play, age play, or feminization, for example. The great thing about BDSM is that you don’t have to cater to every fetish—and you couldn’t anyway, because there are simply too many.

Lady Sas: Please tell us how you met your sub.

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: He found me in the PetPlay community about three and a half years ago. He messaged me there, and things worked between us immediately from the very beginning.

We were both complete beginners when it came to PetPlay, but we decided to explore it together, and when we do something, we do it 100 percent. He became my best friend and most loyal companion.

PetPlay has always been completely nonsexual for us, and it always will be. We spent a year and a half together in the roles of Mistress and dog.

Then, after visiting Boutique Bizarre in Hamburg, we realized that he was more than just the dog—he was also a masochistic slave.

So the dog went into a kind of resting mode, and I focused completely on training him as a slave, something that continues to this day. We have now combined the slave and the animal within him.

Goddess Helia von Roykamon on Her Sub

Lady Sas: What do you appreciate most about him? What makes him special?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: His devotion, his loyalty, and also his tendency toward perfection. He always wants to learn and improve.

He learns to love things he once hated and surrenders himself to me with body, mind, and soul. He doesn’t doubt me and faces every challenge and every task without fear.

He has respect for practices he doesn’t know yet, but he wants to learn and master them. He allows himself to be guided and led, to have his boundaries pushed, and to be taken to the edge of madness.

He has given me complete control over his life, with the exception of his bodybuilding and his work. He even had my initials tattooed on his ass—his slave tattoo—and designed it himself.

He even had my initials tattooed on his ass—his slave tattoo—and designed it himself.

Goddess Helia von Roykamon

I think it’s obvious that he is completely certain that he will be my property forever—my beloved possession, as I often call him.

I don’t think you can go much further than that, and it makes me incredibly proud. It shows me that I have done everything right.

Lady Sas: Your sub is now also your husband. What changed when you got married?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: Absolutely nothing.

When no one else is supposed to know about our dynamic, we are an equal couple who can argue and criticize each other like anyone else.

But when we are alone together as Goddess and slave, everything is strictly regulated and structured. Everyone knows exactly how to behave, without exception.

So nothing really changed. Marriage simply brought us even closer together.

“I have become stricter, more self-assured, and much more confident.”

Lady Sas: How have you changed through training your sub?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: I have become stricter, more self-assured, and much more confident. Dominating and exercising power strengthens me. I enjoy every moment of it.

When he practically melts under my hands, I feel a deep tingling sensation inside me. It’s incredibly difficult to put into words. grins

By now, the Goddess inside me has become terribly arrogant, relentless, perfectionistic, and mean. Those are qualities that didn’t really exist in my life before.

But that doesn’t mean I impose my will at any cost without caring about the consequences. Nothing happens without his consent, because anything that happens through genuine coercion isn’t honest and therefore has no place in such an intense relationship.

That’s also what makes it so fascinating to keep discovering new things about yourself and uncovering and living out entirely new sides of your personality.

Despite plenty of haters and jealous people, I have made a small name for myself. I enjoy exchanging ideas and meeting new people who share my passions.

Lady Sas: What inspires you? How do you come up with ideas for your sessions?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: In the beginning, your books inspired me and gave me guidance.

These days, I no longer plan my sessions down to the minute. That’s a mistake I used to make often.

I once wanted to turn an entire night into a 24-hour session, which of course didn’t work.

Now I make a rough plan but stick to certain rituals. For example, we each spend some time alone in the bathroom beforehand so we can prepare ourselves.

Everything that happens after that usually comes to me spontaneously. Sometimes it’s a large, elaborate program, and sometimes it’s “only” an hour. But it’s always incredibly intense.

Every session is unique. Every feeling, every tingle, every moment of arousal. And every time, it’s wonderful to let go and surrender to your thoughts and desires.

Goddess Helia Is Looking for Another Slave

Lady Sas: Attention, slaves: Goddess Helia would like to give another slave the opportunity to serve her. What requirements do you have?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: He definitely shouldn’t have a problem interacting with my existing property, including physically and sexually.

And I don’t mean “forced bi.” I mean genuine interest in the same sex. There is no room for debate about that. It’s very clearly either yes or no.

This is a major desire of mine, and I have experienced it once before. It excites me and has never left my mind.

He should also be genuinely honest, slim and athletic, well-groomed, and between 25 and 35 years old.

I’m happy to discuss everything else in a personal conversation.

He should also be genuinely honest, slim and athletic, well-groomed, and between 25 and 35 years old.

Goddess Helia von Roykamon

Lady Sas: Do you have any advice about what you expect from an application and what people should avoid? How can someone contact you if they would like to apply?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: Yes, definitely.

Nude photos and genital pictures are completely inappropriate. I don’t judge a slave based on the size of his genitals. I’ll make my own assessment and form my own impression of him.

The way he expresses himself, clarity in what he says, politeness, respect, and addressing me formally are basic requirements. After all, he is speaking to a FemDom.

I can’t stand having to drag every word out of someone or repeat myself constantly. To me, it’s obvious that anyone who applies should know what he wants.

Putting yourself into the service of a FemDom always involves giving up a certain degree of yourself. Otherwise, there’s no reason to pursue this kind of relationship.

A slave wants to find freedom through the guidance of a FemDom, which means he has to be both willing and able to surrender control without unnecessary arguments.

I can be found on Joyclub under Goddess_Helia and on Instagram under @heliavonroykamon.

Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon: I definitely want to attend more fetish parties and BDSM events and experience and discover much more.

Perhaps even with two submissives someday.

Lady Sas: Thank you for the interview.

Photos of Lady Sas & Lady Victoria by Thomas F., edited with KI by Franziska

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FAQs

Who is Goddess Helia von Roykamon?

Goddess Helia von Roykamon is a private FemDom from the Bremen area of Germany. She lives out her dominance with a permanent sub, who is also her husband, combining classic FemDom elements with her experience in PetPlay.

How did Goddess Helia discover BDSM?

Collars and fetish elements already played a role in her life as a teenager, initially without her consciously understanding why. Later, she met a Dom and experienced both dominant and submissive roles. After a serious breach of trust while she was in the submissive role, she consciously chose to embrace her dominant side.

What does the name “Goddess Helia von Roykamon” mean?

The name Helia is inspired by Norse mythology and a goddess of the underworld who is different, both hated and loved. Goddess Helia recognizes something of herself in that outsider quality. The title “Goddess” emphasizes her expectation of being worshiped and treated as a goddess.

How does Goddess Helia describe her BDSM style?

She describes herself as a classic FemDom. Her slaves are generally kept naked because she considers clothing a luxury that has to be earned. She sets clear rules, pushes boundaries, and places her authority at the center of the dynamic.

Which BDSM practices does she enjoy most?

She particularly enjoys orgasm control, humiliation, pegging, and spanking. She is also drawn to the atmosphere of authority—the silence when she enters a room, the reactions to fresh welts, and the contrast between intense play and calm aftercare.

What are Goddess Helia’s hard limits?

Medical play, age play, and feminization are not for her. She emphasizes that no one needs to enjoy or practice every fetish in BDSM and that she focuses on what genuinely suits her.

How did she meet her sub?

Her current sub contacted her through the PetPlay community. Their relationship initially developed as an Owner-and-dog dynamic. Later, they discovered that he also had a strongly masochistic and submissive side. Today, they combine his animal and slave roles within their shared dynamic.

What does Goddess Helia appreciate most about her sub?

She values his devotion, loyalty, perfectionism, and willingness to face challenges. He continually wants to learn and improve and has surrendered much of the control over his life to her. He even has a slave tattoo featuring her initials.

Did marrying her sub change their relationship?

Externally, they live as an equal couple who can disagree and criticize one another. Within their private Goddess-and-slave dynamic, however, their roles remain clearly defined and strictly structured. Marriage deepened their bond without weakening their power dynamic.

How has training her sub changed Goddess Helia?

She says she has become stricter, more self-assured, and significantly more confident. Her dominant side has become more relentless and perfectionistic, while remaining firmly grounded in consent and honesty.

What does Goddess Helia expect from another slave?

A new slave should have genuine interest in physical and sexual interaction with her existing property. He should also be honest, slim, athletic, well-groomed, and approximately 25 to 35 years old.

What does she expect from an application, and what should applicants avoid?

She expects clear communication, politeness, respect, and a formal manner of address. Nude and genital photos are completely inappropriate. Applicants should know what they want and be prepared to accept guidance and surrender a degree of control rather than constantly questioning the dynamic.