Lady Zara is a kind of pioneer, because she trains subs in Budapest, Hungary. Here the Femdom movement is still in its infancy. No wonder, then, that 50 to 60% of the Mistress’s guests in Budapest currently come from abroad. In addition, Lady Zara also travels abroad to train subs here. In the interview, we learn more about the conditions in Budapest and about Lady Zara.
Lady Sas: Dear Zara, please describe how you became a Dominatrix.
Lady Zara: Thank you for the nice question. It was a long process. BDSM/Femdom entered my life in my early twenties. It all started with a relationship, as it usually does for women. For men, it often begins with purchasing and viewing online content. But we women are more emotional. That was the case for me as well. In that relationship, I experienced everything related to both my submissive and dominant sides—mentally and physically.
It shaped the development of my personality in both positive and negative ways. However, as a business and full-time profession, it started three years ago. At that time, I received inspiration and motivation from people close to me who believed in me and saw in me both a successful Dominatrix and a successful businesswoman. I needed this kind of support because, by nature, I tend to be quite insecure when it comes to my own success. Fortunately, my work as a Dominatrix has helped me grow in this regard compared to three years ago. I can now be a strong, independent woman in my profession, and this has a therapeutic effect on the female soul.
Verbal games are just as important when I play with my subs as the physical elements.
Lady Zara
Lady Zara from Budapest interviewed by Lady Sas
Lady Sas: What excites you about playing with slaves?
Lady Zara: When it comes to play, for me, it’s not just about the physical aspect. Verbal games are just as important when I play with my subs as the physical elements. Another key factor for me is how female energy—including sexual energy—affects submissive men. By using and balancing these energies appropriately, I build my sessions, making them enjoyable for me as well.
Lady Sas: You are based in Budapest. How does Hungarian society feel about Femdom?
Lady Zara: Now we’ve arrived at my favorite question. Unfortunately, as a small Central European country, Hungary is still in its infancy when it comes to Femdom. I consider my educational work in this field to be very important here. But as long as there isn’t a receptive market for it, my job remains much more challenging.
Luckily, there is a certain group of people here who understand and practice Femdom, but it’s no coincidence that 50-60% of my clients are foreigners traveling here. This is also why I travel a lot for work.
We, who produce Femdom videos, strongly believe in female solidarity and mutual support.
Lady Zara
Lady Sas: Is there a Femdom scene in Budapest? What is life like here for a professional Mistress?
Lady Zara: It’s difficult, to say the least. I try to approach the subject professionally since this is my full-time job. But when people question why a Dominatrix needs a website or find it strange that they have to fill out a form before booking—like it’s some kind of medical examination—it shows that this is still a hard-to-understand full-time profession here.
There is a BDSM community, but it’s small, and the Femdom scene is even smaller. So, let’s just say that my work is still considered a rarity in Hungary.
Lady Zara about differences between subs and about Prison Cell Experiences
Lady Sas: You like to travel and can also be found in Rome and other cities in Europe. Do you notice differences between the subs in different countries?
Lady Zara: Yes, I travel to different countries every month for two reasons: session tours and collaborations with other renowned, successful Dominatrices. In addition to being a professional Dominatrix, I am also a content creator, which involves collaboration shoots.
We, who produce Femdom videos, strongly believe in female solidarity and mutual support.
To answer your question: Yes, there are significant differences. But mainly in the sense that BDSM and Femdom are still in their early stages in Hungary, while in Western Europe, they have a longer history, which means that traditions and unwritten etiquette rules have developed.
However, among different Western European countries, there are no major differences when it comes to submissive men.
Lady Sas: You also offer prison cell experiences. How does it work? And what makes this kind of session special?
Lady Zara: There is a huge demand for the prison cell experience, especially among my Hungarian clients. I have a small cell within my studio. Here, after discussing the preliminary rules and house regulations, clients can participate in longer or shorter confinement sessions.
In these sessions, men want to completely let go of control and put themselves in my hands with full trust. It’s not just about the experience of being locked up; they are also drawn to the stillness and the feeling of total vulnerability.
They are fully restrained with wall-mounted cuffs—wrists, ankles, and neck shackles—sometimes sitting in complete darkness, depending on their preference.
„Men want to completely let go of control and put themselves in my hands with full trust“
The private side of the Mistress
Lady Sas: Please tell us how you spend your free time.
Lady Zara.Now comes the surprise: I am a mother. They eat up all my remaining time, since I do it for them.
Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?
Lady Zara: I have a lot of plans for my future. I would like to deepen the femdom culture of my country and educate my people. For this, it is important to have as large a following as possible. Another line, which is even more important to me, is to be able to move internationally, working together with other recognized, big names from whom I can constantly learn.
I try to approach the road in front of me with humility. In this work, I found my long-sought creativity. My future plans include settling in Switzerland. I go there early to work. But in the meantime, I would also like to conquer Germany as a hard kezu dominatrix with Hungarian seasoning. Thank you very much for the opportunity.
Lady Sas: Thank you very much.
