Traumtänzerin Tara is a submissive from Berlin who worked as a slave at Studio Lux. In this interview, she talks openly about BDSM studio life, her boundaries, submission, and what makes a great session. Update: Tara is currently no longer listed on the studio’s website.
The interview was conducted by our team member sub jO.
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10 Questions for Submissive Traumtänzerin Tara (Berlin)
jO: You call yourself Traumtänzerin Tara. What’s the story behind that name?
Traumtänzerin Tara: I used to call myself a “wish fulfiller for people with special preferences.” I wondered whether there might be a nicer term starting with the same letter as my name, and eventually I came up with Träumeerfüllerin—someone who fulfills dreams—which then became Traumtänzerin, or “dream dancer.”
So now I dance through my guests’ dreams as well as my own, and I have a name that sounds sensual. I really like it.
jO: Sub, slave, O, maid, fetish girl, switch, submissive, masochist—how would you describe yourself?
Traumtänzerin Tara: That’s a difficult question because every session is very different. Sometimes I’m simply a submissive role-player. Sometimes I’m a very submissive slave or maid. Other times I’m the little brat or wild child who first needs to be convinced that being obedient is actually worthwhile.
I wouldn’t really describe myself as masochistic, although with the right impact toys, I can definitely prove myself wrong.
jO: How did you end up working at a BDSM studio?
Traumtänzerin Tara: When I first started, I was with a partner who had a much lower sex drive and much less interest in BDSM sessions than I did. He suggested that I try working at a BDSM studio because he already knew friends who were sex workers.
I’m very grateful that he supported me in doing that.
“I want to enjoy the sessions too and go home feeling good about them.”
Traumtänzerin Tara
jO: Kissing and blowjobs are off-limits for you. Do your guests respect that, or do many of them try to change your mind? After all, blowjobs are very popular with men.
Traumtänzerin Tara: Both boundaries are quite often met with disappointment and a lack of understanding. Fortunately, though, many people also respect them because they show that I’m not some mindless sub who simply lets people do anything they want to me just because I’m getting paid.
I want to enjoy the sessions too and go home feeling good about them.
Submissive Slave from Berlin: Traumtänzerin Tara
jO: You’re one of the few women who offers receptive anal sex. Are there guests who don’t choose it? What do men find appealing about it?
Traumtänzerin Tara: Anal sex actually isn’t requested that often because I charge an additional €50 for it. Many men appreciate the greater intensity compared with vaginal intercourse, and of course there’s also something especially naughty about it—something that isn’t always easy to get. 😉
jO: Let’s create the dream Dom—the kind you’d marry on the spot. What ingredients would he need?
Traumtänzerin Tara: I still haven’t completely understood the whole concept of marriage. Why choose just one person when there are so many wonderful people?
I love Doms who appear in a classic suit and treat me like their slave as though it were the most natural thing in the world. They’re calm, firm, and still very attentive.
Or Doms who can laugh a lot, pin me to the floor with a grin, and are amused as I try to escape.
Or very sensual riggers who embrace me with their ropes, stimulate me, or tickle and tease me while I’m tied up.
jO: Do you have any advice for Doms on how to make their sessions better?
Traumtänzerin Tara: A lot of Doms think far too much about a session beforehand and plan the entire thing from beginning to end. That doesn’t work.
The best sessions are the ones where we’ve only discussed boundaries beforehand and then respond spontaneously to each other and see where the experience takes us.
jO: Please finish this sentence: BDSM is, for me…
Traumtänzerin Tara: …an escape from reality. 😉
jO: What do you think about Germany’s Prostitute Protection Act?
Traumtänzerin Tara: The Prostitute Protection Act is yet another law that wasn’t thought through properly. It doesn’t help anyone, but it costs a lot of money, creates a lot of bureaucracy, and stigmatizes sex workers even more than before.
I don’t really want to say anything more about it, or I’ll just get worked up again.
jO: What do you do in your free time?
Traumtänzerin Tara: I spend a lot of my free time with other “kinky” people, so in a way I could even describe my work at the studio as leisure time. What could be better than BDSM?
jO: Thank you for the interview.
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Who conducted the interview?
Hello, I’m jO, and I’m here on Lady-Sas.com to share the perspective of a female sub. I have a lot of experience in this area—not only from my personal life, but also through my work as a BDSM Escort. Find out more about me.
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→ Read our interview series with submissive women.
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FAQ
Who is submissive Traumtänzerin Tara?
Traumtänzerin Tara is a submissive from Berlin who worked as a slave at BDSM Studio Lux. In her interview with submissive jO, she openly discusses her roles, boundaries, and experiences working at the studio.
What is a BDSM studio?
A BDSM studio is a professional venue where BDSM sessions are offered. Depending on the studio, professional dominatrices, male Doms, or submissives may take part in role-play and other BDSM scenarios.
What is the difference between a sub, a slave, and a switch?
“Sub” is a general term for someone who takes a submissive role. “Slave” usually describes a more intense form of submission involving a greater degree of control. A “switch” moves between dominant and submissive roles depending on the situation.
Are boundaries normal in BDSM?
Yes. Boundaries are a fundamental part of safe BDSM. Many people have clear limits involving activities such as kissing or oral sex. Communicating boundaries is a sign of autonomy, not weakness.
What does “receptive anal” mean?
“Receptive anal” means that a person receives anal penetration. In a BDSM context, it is an optional activity that should only take place consensually and is typically accompanied by clear boundaries, hygiene, and preparation.
